Frustration

I'm not sure how D and I are going to get through the next months/years of tests, waiting lists and appointments.

We view IF very differently, in fact, straight away I have hit on the problem. I consider us IF, D doesn't. He is convinced that it will happen because we have conceived in the past. As I said to D last night and I say today:

Me: That was over two years ago now and the pregnancy only lasted for two weeks.

Last night we got talking about the appointment:

Me: I think I am going to be disappointed after the appointment (always the optimist).
Him: Yes, I think you are.
Me: Why do you say that? (immediately on the defensive).
Him: Because you are wanting a quick fix and there isn't going to be one.
Me: I know there isn't going to be a quick fix. I know that he is going to suggest further tests and then I am going to have to wait for months on end to get the appointments.
Him: The tests aren't compulsory, you can chose not to have them.
Me: (voice getting v high pitched) I know they aren't compulsory but I am going to go through everything that is offered to ensure that we give this a chance. Are you telling me that you wouldn't do everything possible?
Him: No, I'm just saying that you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do.